Posted: Fri Apr 25, 2008 2:04 pm Post subject: What Can I Do?
Ok, so I am 16 years old and I will be turning 17 in 2 months. I just found out that I am pregnant. the thing is I don't exactly understand what happened because I thought I was a virgin. but then my friend told me that I had slept with a guy at a party. I don't know how to tell my parents, and I don't exactly know what to do. some people are telling me that I should have an abortion but not only my religion but I do not believe in it. I think adoption would be better so I can finish school, but yet I kind of want to keep this baby..what should I do?
Hi, i understand how your feeling, im 16 and i have a baby boy. But i also believe abortions are wrong and one side of me believes adoptions are wrong also when you are able to take care of the baby,it is wrong to give up your child judt so you can have a teenage life. I couldnt imagion my life without my son there is nothing more amazing than having a child no matter what are you are. Age has nothing to do with how good of a parent you are. If you want to talk just send me a message im here wih open ears.
Good Morning,
I'm new here, this is my first post. I hope to offer some support as well as get some advice.
My heart goes out to you that are or think you're pregnant. I know it's got to be very scary, not knowing what to do, how your parents are going to react, etc.
The first thing you need to do is find out if you're pregnant or not. There are resources available thru your county Health and Human Services division. The sooner you find out, the better care you can give your little baby and your own body!! Try not to worry too much (soooo easy to say, very hard to do, I know. ), worrying can eat you up inside, make you miserable, and actually delay a period if you're not pregnant.
My son is a teen father. My granddaughter is 9 months old. She is beautiful and I can't imagine my life w/o her. Coming from the "other side" of the situation, I know the shock, hurt, dissappointment, anger and all those other "not so fun" emotions that come w/being the mother of a teen parent-to-be. As hard as it was, and it was hard, we all survived the pregnancy, the emotional rollercoaster, and now we're doing pretty good! We still have our ups and downs, but we love that little girl more than life itself.
If you're pregnant, I know you're going to be ok. Cut your parents some slack, they're going thru a rough time of it too. As parents, we all have hopes and dreams for our kids. When one of them comes home w/the news, it's hard on us. But be patient w/your parents. I know that might sound silly, but if you drop The News on them, they're going to need time to deal w/it. They might yell, they might cry, they might get very angry. Just remember, they love you and only want the best for you. When they talk to you about the changes that are headed your way, listen to them. Do your best not to get angry and lash out, act like you know it all, etc. I might be the grandma in our situation, but if you can put yourself in your parents' place, try to see things from their side, it can help you all get past the difficult parts and begin to discuss things calmly and make the decisions that are right for you and the baby.
It's hard to talk to the parents about it, I know how difficult it was for my son and his g.f. to talk to my husband and me. But we survived, so keep that in mind.
Good luck to you all, it's going to be hard, but there are good times ahead. Post back and let us know how things turn out!
Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:24 pm Post subject: teen mother need help
Well I am 15 turning 16 in about a month and I just found out that I was pregnant. And my situation is that I am living in a motel and I dont have a job. My boyfriend is 18 and does have a job but if his mom finds out than he gets kicked out. And now my mom says she is gonna send me to this stupid teen mom house if I decide to keep it. So on top of that, I am completely against abortion and a lot of Christian people that I've talked to like: my church's highschool pastor and he said abortion should be completely out of the question. But the reason I am posting this is because I wanna know what you think I should do considering my circumstances. Please reply soon!
Hi Danielle,
I'm glad you posted. I know you're looking for answers but the only one that can make the decision is you, the baby's father, and all your parents.
My son and his gf kept their baby. It's been hard. They fight alot. They've lost touch w/alot of their friends due to having to put the baby first, before their own play time. He works full time, she works part time so they can pay all the bills. He's had to postpone his college plans. He really wants to go back to school so they might be moving back in with us. He doesn't want to live w/mom and dad again. I don't blame him. They've had to grow up very fast, before they were even completely grown up themselves. It's sad to see them "miss" the last few years of being goofy teenagers. But it was their choice.
My son's girlfriend just walked in the door, I asked her if she'd known a year ago what she knows now, if she'd have kept the baby. She said no, it's too hard. And if she was just 16? No, she would have given the baby up for adoption. She's 19 and it's hard on her. She can't imagine trying to raise a baby at your age.
Keep adoption as an option. There are open adoptions now that if I was in your situation, I would probably consider. If you feel you don't want to know anything, go for the closed adoption. I'm sure your pastor can give you information about different agencies.
Pray about this. The good Lord can give you the courage, strength, and wisdom to make the decision that's right for you and your baby.
Post again if you need to cry, vent, holler, whatever. I'll support you as much as I can!
Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2008 5:04 am Post subject: Re: What Can I Do?
Kelsi wrote:
Ok, so I am 16 years old and I will be turning 17 in 2 months. I just found out that I am pregnant. the thing is I don't exactly understand what happened because I thought I was a virgin. but then my friend told me that I had slept with a guy at a party. I don't know how to tell my parents, and I don't exactly know what to do. some people are telling me that I should have an abortion but not only my religion but I do not believe in it. I think adoption would be better so I can finish school, but yet I kind of want to keep this baby..what should I do?
Its hard to be a teenage mom we all know that...I guess tell your parent about it and let the baby live don't engage in any abortion girl...that's not the right solution your killing an angel...You can still go too school until you can and when your belly became so big you can asked advise to your teacher if they can give you special treatment to settle your schooling...So that you can finish your study....
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Try not to worry too much (soooo easy to say, very hard to do, I know. ), worrying can eat you up inside, make you miserable, and actually delay a period if you're not pregnant.