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Posted by Sandy on February 25, 2003 at 13:01:33:
In Reply to: Re: No Father Involved posted by Katie on January 30, 2003 at 12:30:08:
First off, if you do decide on adoption, unfortunately, the father will somehow need to be involved in relinquishing his rights to this child. So, eithe way, it sound slike the truth will need to come out sooner or later. I know it's hard on you right now, but it will only get harder if you don't tell the truth to this person. If he wants to relinquish his rights if you decide on adoption, he just needs to sign a piece of paper, that's it. I'm glad you dind't go through with an abortion. My sister had one 10 years ago and she will regrets it to this day. I fyou need to talk, e-mail me at lostallhope2002@yahoo.com Sandy : : At 16 my best friend became pregnant and I went through the whole thing with her and she did give the baby up for adoption. I can say only a few things that may assist you. It was difficult for her mostly immediately after the birth, when ppl would ask where the baby was and she would have to explain. She is greatful that a wonderful family adopted her dd. It has been years and yet the family has constantly sent letters of updates and many pictures. It is an extremely difficult decision to make and remember it is for the rest of your life! But, do what is best for that child! : Hi. Thanks for sharing your friends experience with me. I was just wondering how she is doing now. Has the adoption been easy for her? Im still really torn as to what I should do, but I know as time goes on I will be a little more definate about my decision. The sad thing would be that if I didn't give the baby up for adoption, I would have to hide him from his father for the rest of his life. If the father of my baby ever found out, he wouldn't make the babies life happy. We broke up a week before I found out I was pregnant, so we never would have seen each other anyways because he lives about 50 miles from me. Anyways, sorry i wrote so much. Let me know how your friend is now if you could. Thanks. Katie
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: : : I know this message may not be in the norm of other posts, but it is really been a struggle for me. I am 9 wks pregnant and the father of the baby wanted me to have an abortion, no questions asked. I told him I wanted to keep it and would never ask him for child support, ever. He refused to let me do that. So, I told him I had an abortion, even though I didn't. I am feeling very strong about putting this baby up for adoption, but I am really scared. Can anyone please let me know if you have ever given a child up for adoption, and how it feels afterwards. I am really not ready for a baby at all, but I just couldn't have an abortion. Thank you.