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Posted by Sue on May 14, 2003 at 09:56:30:
In Reply to: Should I see a dr? posted by Marriage trouble on May 14, 2003 at 07:38:59:
: Since the birth of our child, I have had no interest in sex. It has been ten months. I make every excuse in the book because I just dont care about it. DH has had a real problem with it and that is his excuse now for everything he does wrong. Is it something physically wrong? Or could I have a problem with dh? I have felt as if he doesn't help enough with the baby or around the house. Am I taking this out on him in some way? Any suggestions... please! I feel for your plight, I've been in your shoes. A new baby can take everything you've got, throw in 10 loads of laundry and your second trip to the grocery store this week and who really cares about sex. DH and I have been ironing out these kind of kinks in our relationship. I was harboring some serious resentment because he could go off and do anything he wanted and I was always taking care of baby. Then the night feedings were taking it's toll and I was just exhausted. Then he would constantly make rude comments about not getting any. I finally snapped one day and gave him a piece of my mind, which might not be the best way to go, but it seemed to work. Maybe you've got to talk to him and let him know how you feel, keeping it in is making it worse. One thing I have realized is that sometimes you have to take the time, even if you don't feel like it. Don't ever forget why you two are together in the first place, because you were attracted to each other and love each other. Even if it's once a month try to take even an hour to spend a little adult time with your husband. It will get better, I even suggest going and doing something for your self to help you feel normal again, get your hair cut, go buy a new outfit, get a manicure, take some time out for you. I wish you luck, hang in there this too shall pass.
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