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Posted by sara on July 12, 2003 at 08:59:15:
In Reply to: Update on uhappilly married with children (page 4) posted by Denise on July 12, 2003 at 03:38:25:
I agree with the others...you are doing right by yourself AND the children. Staying in a marriage of abuse(even verbal) sends the wrong message to the kids,and it really drains you as a person as well.As for the house try and save it.My mom was faced with a second mortgage and foreclosure.Everyone told her to sell and move to the ghetto area.Well she got a restaurant job and saved the house,and even sent us kids to Europe a few times..all on a waitress income! She didn't even know english that well. Perhaps your parents can help at first.Consider taking in a female boarder.One with a child and single.That way you can share on childcare and bills.There are support groups for moms through the domestic relations court.As for the children just remind them that both parents love them very much,but that you can no longer live together.There are support groups for them as well.Plus most courts require both couples to go through a divorce seminar class, which will focus mostly on how you both need to behaive(sp) when relating to the children.
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Best wishes to you.
sara
ps. Start getting all those financial documents together if you have not already.It is amazing what disappears,and what comes to haunt you through your spouses attorney!Look for your DRC online.They will usually have forms and a checklist of the whole divorce process.Hopefully you can do a dissolution and do it without the lawyers who charge far to much for something you can do yourself....if ofcourse he does not try and fight you on issues....then it becomes a little game between the lawyers/magistrate/judges(BTDT) while you and the spouse twiddle your thumbs outside chambers waiting to see what the strangers decide on your fate.Ugh!