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Posted by Denise on July 13, 2003 at 15:04:25:
In Reply to: Re: Update on uhappilly married with children (page 4) posted by yvette on July 13, 2003 at 03:39:05:
: : First, I would like to thank those of you who gave me wonderful advice. : : Second, I got the guts and did it. I talked to my parents and were shocked and upset because I had hid it for so long. My father also had a talk with him and let him know how disappointed he was in my husband. He moved out of the house even though he begged me not to leave him as usual but he did leave. I was going to wait a little longer before I ended this but one day I felt so hurt because my daughter lost a couple pieces that go to a $2.00 puzzle that I had purchased for her and she was very upset. I told her not to worry and that I would buy her another puzzle that has all the pieces which meant spending money, so he became furious, said I was crazy, and called me many horrible names. I never use any foul language, especially in front of my kids. I also come from a good family where my parents have a great marriage and respect eachother. I knew I just had to end this. : : I have been feeling terrible about this though. My kids always ask for him and it does hurt me whenever I go out with my kids and see many couples out there with their kids. I also worry becaue I don't think I wlll be able to make the house payment by myself and will probably end up living with my parents due to this. I feel like a failure sometimes. I hope I really made the right choice for my kids sake. : First I have to say, glad you are on your way to being happy. I hardly come to this board, I have 2 kids 4yrs and 20 mths. I cried when I read your post on page 4. I too am in the same situation and cant seem to find the guts to leave. But my Bf does hit me and is very abusive to me verbally as well. We have been together 5 yrs, cause of kids, and I think that is our whole problem. He doesnt want to seperate cause he feels we should stay for the kids. I am 31 weeks pg too. We fight horribly, and then act like nothing happened. My kids would see him drag me around the house by my arm or hair or neck. I know this is all bad, and I have filed for childsupport already. I cant leave my home, I have nowhere to go. My parents are divorced. But anyway good to hear you are ok.
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I am sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time also. Have you to talked to his parents about it? Maybe you could get him to leave. I think you should get out now, maybe there is some help out there. If not, the violence will get worse and can lead to death. Do it for your kids. I think your kids will suffer more seeing all of this.