Re: Update on uhappilly married with children (page 4)

Posted by Denise on July 14, 2003 at 16:48:46:

In Reply to: Re: Update on uhappilly married with children (page 4) posted by tracie on July 14, 2003 at 12:24:06:

: : First, I would like to thank those of you who gave me wonderful advice.

: : Second, I got the guts and did it. I talked to my parents and were shocked and upset because I had hid it for so long. My father also had a talk with him and let him know how disappointed he was in my husband. He moved out of the house even though he begged me not to leave him as usual but he did leave. I was going to wait a little longer before I ended this but one day I felt so hurt because my daughter lost a couple pieces that go to a $2.00 puzzle that I had purchased for her and she was very upset. I told her not to worry and that I would buy her another puzzle that has all the pieces which meant spending money, so he became furious, said I was crazy, and called me many horrible names. I never use any foul language, especially in front of my kids. I also come from a good family where my parents have a great marriage and respect eachother. I knew I just had to end this.

: : I have been feeling terrible about this though. My kids always ask for him and it does hurt me whenever I go out with my kids and see many couples out there with their kids. I also worry becaue I don't think I wlll be able to make the house payment by myself and will probably end up living with my parents due to this. I feel like a failure sometimes. I hope I really made the right choice for my kids sake.

: Take it from a person that lived with watching her mother go thro that abuse its not worth it. My mother stayed with my dad thro 11 years of abuse because she thought I need my father and let me tell you it did alot more damage to me to watch my father hurt my mother then me and my mom being alone! another thing, things always work them selves out maybe you will lose your house, but you'll still have your kids and they will still have you!!!!

That's a really nice way to put it. Thank you.

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