Re: To Chelsea and friends!

Posted by Lee on August 03, 2003 at 22:19:30:

In Reply to: Re: Crying it out...I disagree posted by chelsea on August 03, 2003 at 17:09:09:

: : I can respect that, but you know what? I was that way w/ my first Son. I never wanted my babies to want for anything. I ALWAYS wanted to be there for them every second that they neeeded me, and I have made a Monster out of my 4 yrs old son. I have been OVERLY accessible to him. He nags me EVERY minute of every day to watch him, or play w/ him, or listen to his story, or sing to him, or watch tv w/ him. Now this is even when he is playing w/ friends. It is nice that he loves me, but this is as irritating as can be. And it is all my fault, I did this, always wanting to be there for everything for my babies. So w/ my little girl, I have to try something different or I'm going to have two little ones pulling at me every minute, and I want to be a happy pleasant Mom, not an irritated one. I tried the cry it out thing last night. It wasn't so bad really. I wouldn't say she "cried", but she fussed and fussed, and would fall back asleep. And I took a sleeping pill so I wouldn't be so inclined to jump up!!! Believe me! You don't want to be expected to entertain you little one's every minute, and being overly accessible to my youngest has caused me a nightmare, AND NOW I MUST RUN, BECAUSE HE HAS A FRIEND OVER, BUT INSISTS ON BEING ON MY LAP????? And, yes, I do take time out for him many times a day, but this is ridiculous...and it's my own fault, my friends told me I would regret it, and I do.

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: : : : My baby doll is 9 months old and sleeps terrible!! ALWAYS has! Fusses and fusses every hour. Used to use pacifier, stopped that at around 6 months old. Now she wants you to place empty bottle in her mouth or she wont go back to sleep. I let her fuss, and cry for 45 minutes a few times, she wont give in! She is just the happiest, sweetest most lovable baby when she's awake, BUT SHE'S DRIVING ME CRAZY! Yes, she sleeps in our room w/ us in her crib. Because she has Reflux, and she projectile from time to time, caught her girgling on her back many of times. Should I do the "crying it out thing"? It seems so cruel, and she doesn't seem to give in, AND I JUST WANT TO GO BACK TO SLEEP? Ok, I asked for it, let me have it, LOL!

: : : My ds is 10 months. Was a good sleeper until about 5 months. Everyone told me to let him CIO. I've heard it does work. I won't do it though. I disagree with it at this age. Is it so bad that my ds after living inside me for 9 months wants to be near me? In my opinion, no. Once I moved the crib back into our room he starting sleeping about 10 hours a night. Sometimes he'll wake up, find his pacifier and he'll go back to sleep. Not to say we still don't have some off nights. When he is older and he can communicate with us in other ways than crying, I'll be more willing to let him CIO. Until then, I want him to know he can rely on me. Whatever anyone decides about what is right for their own child (and their own sanity) is right I think. Good luck.

: Hi Lee,
: Thanks for the response. I guess I should have said that I do not believe in CIO with sleep issues. My son does cry and I let him do so when he wants to play with the stereo speakers, TV, etc when he is told not to, etc. For my children, I don't believe in treating something as glorious and important as sleep in a negative manner. Again, my opnion. A colleauge of mine is currrently conducting a study relating imsonia-related adult sleeping issues to CIO as a child. Please, I'm not trying to start a big debate, just expressing a different parenting style. I'll attach a website with Harvard researchers that do not advocate CIO. I have read many articles and such with CIO supporters as well. To each his own.

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