Babywise

Posted by Re: babywise on November 30, 2001 at 06:23:39:

In Reply to: babywise posted by Kelly on October 30, 2001 at 20:41:09:

Yes, it's worked for me but with ALOT of common
sense mixed in. The main thing that worked for me
was waking up my son during the day to eat every 3
hours. The nutrition in addition to wake time during
the day is what allows the baby to sleep.

My son was 6 weeks old and still waking every 2-3
hours with just stretch of maybe 4-5 of sleep per day.
Against my mother's advise I first moved him into
his own room, then feeding him every 3 hours.
He cried every time he was awake and spit up all
the time. I discoverd I was OVER feeding him, as
sometimes he just needed to burp, be held, etc.

I checked with my Dr. first based on my son's
progress to see if every 3 hours was OK, especially
since he is breast fed. That is where the common
sense kicks in and if everyone reads closely,
what the book advises, common sense. Every baby
is different but the feeding schedule has worked
for us. (I have many friends who's children fell
into thier own schedule..... Oh to dream!)

Although I'm up now, I put my son down at
9pm last night. That was 6 hours ago, and most
nights he sleeps 7-8 hours. The main think I did
was to feed him every 3 hours. At first I had to
work with the pacifier and sometimes fed him at 2
or 2 1/2 hours. I DID NOT let my hungry baby lay
thier and cry. I ONLY let him cry if I knew
without a doubt that he was fighting sleep.

I do let him cry some but only AFTER evaluating
what the cry means. Wait just a second and think
about why the baby is crying. 2-3 minutes will
seem like an hour but it will allow you know what
the problem is. With the scheduling I have
discovered many things. My son doesn't burp well,
NO MATTER WHAT I DO! So he is in pain and yes I
pick him up and burp him or try to console him. I
have also discovered,as previously stated that
he fights sleep sometimes. Some time I let him
cry a bit and sometimes I don't. I have a friend
who let her baby cry and swears the crying time
went down but it was a HARD week of
working with the schedule.

If your baby wakes at night and won't go back
down I would feed him/her. If you continue to
wake the baby during the day to make sure they
eat that will help them sleep through the night.
That's the whole goal.

I haven't been very sucessful with keeping him
awake for 1 1 /2 hours and napping 1 1/2 hours
between feeding yet. Although I do put him down
according to the Babywise schedule if he's still
awake at 1 1/2 hours and say night night. Again,
this is on the advise of my DR that around 4-5
months babies begin to know when thier naptime
is and still VERY much need thier sleep.

The best advise is to take from the book, or any
other what works for you. NEVER forget that you
are the mother and in final control. Wheather
you feel it or not you know what's best. E-mail
me back if you need support. Until a few weeks
ago I was so sleep deprived that I was having
chest pains and basically "freeking out". Get
support from your DR., family, friends, someone
if you are no 100% OK. Being a parent is not
easy, but it's the best job in the world. God
wants you to love your child and meant them to
be a joy. Choosing when to let that baby cry is
your descision based on what you know about your
baby. My son fights sleep also but I didn't know
that until I recently.

It's also 100% OK to wish on many tough days that
you weren't a mother and someone would magically
appear and take that kid. Don't forget, God
designed a baby's cry to create panic in order to
get your attention. It was meant to get on your
nerves so you will do something. The wisdom comes
in when you can figure out if the baby is cold,
mad, or in pain. It takes a while to figure out
different cries but scheduling helps.

Again, check with your DR. to see how long your
baby can go SAFELY between feeding BEFORE starting
any sort of scheudule.

Hope this helps.
Lana Price

: I have been reading a lot on this book babywise,,, now correct me if I am wrong but is it true you are to let your newborn cry without comforting or feeding at night,,,and I am just curious how many of you have tried this and had success

: Kelly

Follow Ups:

• Re: Babywise (for Lana Price) Gareth Hyde 17:36:15 12/28/01 (0)
• Re: Lana's message :Babywise Sara Koenig 12:22:19 12/20/01 (0)

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