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Posted by Nicole on December 03, 2002 at 15:55:03:
In Reply to: Re: 18-month-old biter :-( posted by Debbie on December 01, 2002 at 18:58:01:
I have a 3 year old son and am a caregiver at a daycare. One of the things I have seen on both accounts is that children bite because they don't have the words to tell you what is going on. Most 18-24 mo old children are very possessive and don't like to share ANYTHING. It's a part of development. One thing we do in the daycare is remove the child that bit from the situation and tell them that biting hurts...it's not okay... and i don't like that.. that age group doesn't like to hear that a parent or sibling doesn't like something they are doing. Children that age are very self-centered...not a bad thing, just part of development. You might try this website...www.parentleaders.org, go to articles and then pick the article on biting,pushing,pulling hair. It really gave me some insight. also the success stories are helpful too. : I think you hit the nail on the head. Sounds like to me, like my daughter, she wants attention, even if it's negative. Doesn't like others w/her mommy or playing w/her toys even if she doesn't want them!! I would continue to tell her no, and if it doesn't improve soon, you might have to resort to trying time outs or removing her from what she likes to do as a consequence. Does she talk yet? : : The poor little guy can be playing with one of her toys but not one that she is playing with and she will promptly walk over to him and bite! He was sitting in her chair and eating his breakfast and she bit him. She had a chair and breakfast too. She bites me when I won't give her what she wants and she bites her sister when they are playing. I don't really understand all of her reasons but I am sure right now she is having issues with people in her space because my sis, bil, and two kids were visiting for Thanksgiving. On one occassion my nephew was near me with his back to my daughter and she ran at him and tackled him like a football player. He didn't have any toys or anything so what prompted her to do that I don't know. She is getting a bad reputation for herself :-) We call her brutus and it is a well earned nickname!!! I am at my wits end with her!!!! : : : Hi Melanie, My 2 year old daughter also bites and it drives me crazy. I'm afraid she's going to really hurt my 1 year old son. She has even bitten me, usually on the front of my shoulder. I won't bite her back either, as I'm trying to teach her it's wrong, so what good would it do if I bit her??? And she's to young to really understand a time out. The only thing I can say is I personally find that it relates most of the time to frustration....is someone taking one of her toys? does she want something and cant tell you or whoever it is what she wants? does she want to do something and cant? is she tired or getting tired? is another kid provoking her? I do not think she is trying to be mean or doing it to purposefully hurt. : : : When my daughter does it, I remove her from the situation and sit her down and firmly, without yelling, tell her "no biting", "say you're sorry", "biting hurts", "no more biting" and then I do not allow her to continue with what she was playing with (which might cause a fit, but it's a consequence she understands) and I give her something else to do. : : : Please post back, I'll be interested to see the circumstances surrounding your daughters biting. :
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: : : : I have an 18-month-old daughter who is into biting :-( She is mean to her cousin that is 2 months younger then her. She bites him, me, her sister, my niece. It is out of control. She even bites herself hard enough to leave a red mark and then she laughs. I don't know what else to do. I don't believe that biting her back will work and I just won't do it!!!!! After all, she bites herself and laughs about it :-( She is a happy child and is so sweet but boy is she exercising her power with the bite :-( Thanks for any help!!!