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Posted by chelsea on December 08, 2002 at 13:02:59:
Hey Steve,
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I have been reading your posts and my heart has been aching for your situation. As you may remember, my son is young yet, but still I want to put in my 2 cents. I have heard from many friends and relatives that the CIO approach is necessary to "train" your child. My mother never used it with any of us and we all turned out just fine. As I'm sure it has worked for many people, it probably won't work for every child. Children are all different and in my opinion, not programmable with some situations. If it is killing you guys and adding more stress to your lives to listen to her shriek ( the added stress something none of you will benefit from, especially being as sleep deprived as you all are), I say, don't do it. You both are the only ones that know your baby. I know you know about all the different philosophies, as I'm sure you know about Dr. Sears. He is firmly against CIO. He thinks by not responding to a crying baby and trying to teach them this way can lead to personality issues later. So there are mixed reviews on everything. I say go with your instincts. I'm sure you will all sleep better with that. I have to add that yesterday I was talking to this woman of a 3 year old. She nursed for 2 years and she was telling me that I have to use the CIO approach because this will be the ONLY way my son will learn. Which she used with her son. She then went on to tell me that her son has yet to sleep through the night. She goes to sleep with him in his room because this is the only way he'll fall back asleep and says he can't stand being apart from her. I couldn't help but ask myself, and the CIO approach worked HOW again? LOL!!! Sorry this is so long. Hope all works out.