Posted by Paula ann on October 03, 2002 at 10:39:45:
In Reply to: What do I do about my sister?? posted by Kristal on October 03, 2002 at 10:22:07:
: Me and my sister have the problem with conceiving. She is 32 and married and has tried for 10 tears to conceive. Mine and her problems are alot alike but different. She got pregnant 2 years ago and it ended in a tubal. She tried off and on since then. O.K. the problem is, is she is being very negative about me wanting to conceive. She said she has given up and now has no desire to want a baby. When she use to be obsessed like me. I have always been though, LOL! Every time I talk about yall on this pregnancy board she gives me a disgusting look and says oh, just give it more time and you'll get over it. I tell her I will never get over it. If I say anything at all pregnancy related you gets real defensive. If I tell her something about what I know as far as pregnancy related she blows me off and rolls her eyes at me. Why is she doing this? All she can say to me is, one day you'll just give up and you will be ready for adoption. I can't talk to her about symptoms I'm having, about my period or nothing without a disgusting look or the rolling eyes thing. Does anyone have any suggestions? It's really starting to piss me off. Why can't she be supportive of what I want? She is hurting me and she don't even know it. She thinks this board is a crock of shit. I told her I learned alot from this board and she says, you don't even know who your talking to. It could be man or a murderer. What do I do or say to her? Anyone please have any suggestions?
It sounds like your sister is not over the loss of her tubal pregnancy and has issues she has not dealt with.I think she is also being so negative about u because she does not want u to go though the 10 years of trying to only be shot down later. she does not want u to go though all of the heartbreak and longing everymonth. I imagine she is stressed and upset that she did not get what she wanted and the only way to show u how hard it was on her is to treat u so negativly about what u want. I would just let her cool off and not bother trying to talk to her about it again or at least for while, she needs to deal with it on her own/or go for help. love her and suport her desisions cause she is your sister ,,,, she should be doing the same mind u but if she is not just let her be.
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